A few years ago, I found a series of youtube videos that were rather interesting:
Interesting enough I bought the first reference book the guy listed:
Ian Stewart & Vann Joines: 'TA Today: A New Introduction To Transactional Analysis'
This was not an easy book to get into. Despite my interest in the guy's videos, I read the first few chapters, and gave up. It felt too much like just another textbook, and moreover, I can't imagine situations where I'm acting in a "parent" or "child" state of mind.
About a month ago, I decided to read through all the unread or half-read books I have, so that I'll at least know what's in the books on my bookshelf. When it came to this book, I found my old bookmark and just slogged forward, doing the few non-group exercises.
It was surprisingly rewarding.
Though I still take what's in it with a grain of salt, it's helped me in my never-ending quest to better myself. I already knew I had some problems, some old mental ruts, but this just rubbed my nose in them.
As an example, I've always known I have a habit of procrastinating. In TA terms, I use the "until" driver a lot, as in "I won't do this until I do that." I had created a daily routine of interlocking if-then statements, to the point I often would find I had no time to do what I REALLY wanted each day after I'd done all the other stuff first. And I did this at all levels, going through much of college without much enjoyment because I was in a psychological script of "I can't have fun until my homework is done," and since there was always homework, many days I never did what I really wanted to for hobbies or entertainment.
So the other day, I started short-circuiting the until script by accomplishing things before finishing the daily routine. I went out to the bank before breakfast. I got to stores before they closed. I accomplished so much and it felt so empowering.
And then other things began happening. Once I got off the rails of the script, I found myself organizing and cleaning things that hadn't been touched in years. I found old things abandoned in my closet. I wiped off YEARS of dust from things that me and my parents just never thought of cleaning.
I've just finished reading the book, and in the process spotted yet more scripts I was following. And each one I diverted or shut down, the better my days have gone.